Getting a bodyslide massage is something that you may have only just heard of and are curious about, or maybe its something you’ve tantalised over for months and can’t find the courage or motivation to try out. Perhaps you are in a committed relationship with someone who would not approve of you getting a bodyslide massage because one or both of you perceive that level of intimacy and touch as being exclusive to your romantic relationship.

Of course, you don’t want to alienate and break trust with your partner by going ahead with it behind their back or being dishonest about the nature of it when you describe it to them. At the end of the say, the sexual aspect is hard for people to get over and it may not be worth ruining your relationship over it.

Let’s take a look at this ‘sticky’ issue and see what the best choices are for people who love each other to get through it unscathed.

What is a bodyslide massage, exactly?

Trying to home in on a concrete definition of where a bodyslide massage begins and ends is really an exercise in futility. While there is the obvious physical action of using the human body as a tool for therapeutic manipulation, there are different levels of involvement that can change what the treatment is depending on your sensibilities and values.

For example, it is not uncommon for a bodyslide massage to involve or lead-into sexual acts as part of the therapeutic ‘release’ of the encounter. Since, by definition, the masseuse needs to use their naked skin for it to ‘count’, the inherent intimacy makes arousal hard to avoid for many.

In this sense, the treatment is often conflated with the sex work industry since it occupies somewhat of a middle-ground between outright prostitution and private masseur. While the semantics may not be important to you, it may be important to your partner if they find out the treatment you got involved your genitals being manipulated or something else.

How do you convince a partner to let you get one?

Honestly, some partners will NEVER BE OK with this kind of thing, even if they say they are after you wear them down. They may have low self-esteem and think if they don’t let you get the bodyslide massage you might leave them for someone who would (this might actually be a good thing if you find they disapprove of a lot of what you do).

Couples shouldn’t keep secrets or resent each other – you need to communicate and be honest. Perhaps you can find a compromise where you let them do something you would normally disapprove of in exchange or simply ask them to give you the treatment themselves.

You might just need to accept that it is not going to happen and move on. If you really want it but now resent your partner for denying it to you, perhaps you shouldn’t be in a monogamous relationship with that person? If things you sincerely want to do can’t happen because of an obligation to a partner that you resent, you are going to become depressed, angry and eventually take it out on your partner which they probably don’t deserve.

Remember, honestly is everything in a relationship and is just as important when discussing a bodyslide massage as it is for anything else.